We live in oppositions. Let’s look together at a few examples to illustrate what I mean by oppositions.
Regularly throughout our week, we might feel we are tired. The usual response to that is resting, having a nap or sleeping. But is this always an optimal solution? Let’s assess that situation from a different angle and I have one more question for you. Do you remember the last time you felt tired, but it was just before going to your gym class or your workout? Because of that tiredness, you dreaded working out even before starting. You displayed a great amount of self-discipline and managed to drag your ass to the gym. You warmed up, you started to exercise and felt great rather quickly. Why is that? I have such experiences too; it just happened a few hours ago. Often when I am tired before I go to my CrossFit classes, I have great, surprisingly intense and focused workouts.
When we lack energy, we might not need to rest more. In many occasions, we are mentally tired and not physically tired. That is highly confusing for our brain and body, it often feels exactly the same. We can make the self-disciplined decision to exercise and then we might feel great again, possibly for the rest of the day! It doesn’t have to be a full-blown workout; it could be going for a walk, doing some house cleaning and some other chores. Activate your body, it is often as simple as that!
Another example that is a classic in love relationships. A little thing happen with our partner, let’s say we just came back from work and they did not really pay attention to us. We let that small lack of attention trigger us, and then the next time they come close to us and ask us how we are doing, we ask our partner to leave us alone. How often we do that when we initially craved to be with them when we craved their attention? Because we let ourselves be upset, instead of recognising what is happening and trying to get what we wanted, we just push the other away. Achieving the opposite outcome of what we craved.
There is a world where instead of pushing our partner away. We could say:
“I am sorry Sweetheart, I have been hurt by your behaviour and I initially wanted to reject you and blame you for what you did. I know you did nothing wrong, and what I really want is to have a nice chat, while we sit on the couch. I had a hard day at work, and I need someone to talk to. Can we do that?”
In many occasions, if we go beyond our initial reactions, we might get the best of life. It is counter-intuitive, and so often, we lack the awareness and knowledge to be able to take advantage of these situations, instead of having these situations limiting our lives.
It is one of the reasons why I created this blog, to share with you the ones I’ve encountered and hopefully, learn from the ones you’ve experienced yourself. Leave a comment with your own experiences when acting in opposition was the right step to take!
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