We have been raised to say the magic words to others out of politeness. Politeness is often empty and fake, even if predominant (and important) in society. Politeness puts pressure on saying what we often do not mean. Saying Thank You might sound like a simple act, but doing it meaningfully is an art. Let’s look at three keys that will help you craft compelling Thank You(s)!
MEAN It Or Do Not Say it
Having an intention and being genuine is crucial if you want your Thank You(s) to touch someone’s else soul.
The exciting part here is that we can train ourselves to be looking out for the positive around us. Here is how I do and it is easy to copy: I practice Gratitude every day, before sleeping. As an exercise with my wife, we say Thank You and express Gratitude for three actions or intentions that we had for one another that day. We have been doing that for more than a year now, and that brought a lot to my life. Here would be an example for today:
“Thank you My Love for making time today for me while you are abroad.”
Be Precise, Give Details
Often, we stop at saying Thank You or express “simple” gratitude. Like I just did above. What we mean is about the other, and while it is excellent, many of us dismiss such praises. I have a typical yet straightforward example for you. The answer to the praise could also be the inner-voice as some people do not voice their rejection of the praise.
“Oh! You did an amazing job! Thank you”
“It’s nothing really, I’m just doing my job”
There is power and a huge one in being specific with our praises; I’ll keep the initial example and keep building on it:
“Thank you My Love for making time today for me while you are abroad. I could see you were busy too and that you made a conscious effort to have time for us. You know I value when we can talk to each other”
I have an intention; I pay attention to the effort my partner did today. I acknowledge it, but I go beyond, I empathise with her as it came with a cost to her. She could have done something else of her time after all!
Say How it Makes You Feel!
After expressing our gratitude, being precise and adding details, we can even go further. We can add how we feel to the mix and that is when it becomes truly powerful.
“Thank you My Love for making time today for me while you are abroad. I could see you were busy too and that you made a conscious effort to have time for us. You know I value when we can talk to each other. It made my feel significant and that you care about me, I needed that today. I felt I matter to you”
Let’s take another example for the men out there. You might have been told to compliment your lady before she goes out. She all dressed up, makeup in on and that took a reasonable hour. Now it times to do your duty! Let’s have it in three steps as we have seen in the article.
“You look great tonight! I like your hair!”
“You look great tonight! I like your hair, its wavyness is charming and your new shoes are a perfect match for your red dress. You look classy!”
“You look great tonight! I like your hair, its wavyness is charming and your new shoes are a perfect match for your red dress. You look classy! I’m proud to have a stunning wife and I admire your beauty“
Before I close today’s article, I want to loop back to being genuine. That will only work if you mean it!
See you tomorrow for the next one!